Parenting Equations

Lately I’ve been reading Daddy Dates by Greg Wright. Early on he gives an equation that describe the balance between rules and relationships in parenting.

• Rules – Relationship = Rebellion

• Relationship – Rules = Destruction

• Relationship + Rules = Connection

Greg states,

It’s like hanging on to a bar of wet soap in the shower. If you hold the bar too closely, it will fall; if you grip too tightly, it pops out the top. Parenting with all rules and no relationship is a strategy based on fear, and it doesn’t work. You grip so hard that you actually loose control. …It is equally ineffective to be loosey-goosey, more of a permissive pas than a productive parent. it will tear the relationship apart and put a kid in real danger.

He gives another really good equation that can be applied to all human relationships.

Talk + Action + Time = Trust

How have seen or practiced a balance rules and relationship in parenting?

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